We have been trying to conceive for almost 5 years. Unexplained infertility. In 2015 we started IVF, our first cycle worked we got pregnant unfortunately our baby stopped growing at 7 weeks. I had a D&C in August and we haven't got a BFP since.
In the past 2 weeks I have had 2 Facebook pregnancy announcements, while I am extremely happy for them, how do i deal with the hurt and disappointment that it is not us announcing our baby news?
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Cry it out, sorry it's all you can do. It hurts and I wish there was a magic pill to make the hurt go away but there isn't. So you just have to go through the pain.
Im so sorry. Hubby and i struggled for 4 years (9 miscarriages) before getting pregnant. I understand the pain. Talk with someone you trust about how you are feeling. Talking with my hubby help me out. He also struggled with it. Talking made us stronger and helped us both deal with not getting pregnant. Have a date night. Go out to the movies. Go away for a weekend. Do as much as you can to enjoy life. Doing that helped me out so much. When i was down i knew that my husband was there helping me through the pain. Your mental health is very important, especially when trying to get pregnant. Also, on the flip side, allow yourself to be upset. Cry it out. Dont hold back on your feelings. I wish you all the luck and hope you have your little bundle of joy very soon
I know how hard it is when everyone is announcing they're pregnant. I was very lucky to have a surprise as both partner and i were both told before meeting each other we would have issues conceiving. But then when it came to trying for number 2 we had all sorts of issues. And it seemed everyone was pregnant around me. I know im waffling on a bit but this is my announcement story after a long time of trying we finally got to make our announcement. Everyone has a background on trying to get pregnant. Some people try one time and others try for years to make that announcement. Your tine will come...
When I was pregnant with my 2nd child I had a family friend say to me that it's not fair that I can have two pregnancies in two years, because they had been trying for a 2nd pregnancy for 10 years and were getting into their late 40s and had lost hope, but the words it really hurt me. I had lost a baby in the past, and had been trying for a while before it happened. And why should I have to feel guilty about starting a family. It's ok to feel these things but to say them is another thing altogether.. My point is a lot of people have had this heartache and have a story to tell.. i wish you all the best.
I know how you feel.. We have been trying for number 2 since my daughter was 6 months- she's almost 3.
My closest friend fell pregnant after only deciding to try I was there when she took the test (I left her house and got in the car drove off and cried). My other friend is on her 5th in 5 years, my boss and another friend are also pregnant.
Once I dealt with the fact that it may take us longer than anticipated and focused on another aspect on life (focusing on career, getting back into shape, studying and getting married) it does get easier. It also helps to be open about your struggles, I know longer feel down when someone announces although I do wish it was me sometimes but then think back to everything else I'm doing. I've also looked deeper into why my body is rejecting the swimmers and learnt that my diet could be a huge part. So I decided to start Paleo and hoping by dropping weight and releasing toxins with bring us bubba #2.
Sending baby dust your way and hope you are blessed with a bubba soon!! Xxx