Please no judgemental comments. I'm really just looking to see if other women have been or are in the same boat.
So my partner and I fell pregnant after over 6 months of trying to conceive and we were over the moon when we found out. I've had an extremely easy pregnancy and I've loved being pregnant apart from some bad heart burn/indigestion. Now I have suffered from mild anxiety my whole teen years - not enough for me to be diagnosed but I definitely am a big stressed and worried. I'm now coming up to a few weeks away from my due date and I all of a sudden am having second thoughts. I sit in the shower and cry most nights. I'm so scared I won't be a good parent. I'm worried as I feel as though since being on maternity leave (only 3 weeks) I've lost all my friends already. my partner has always said we will do it as a team but I constantly stress that I'll do it all by myself. I feel like I'm having second thoughts.
I really do love my bub already and have from day one and I'm so happy we will be a family very soon. I'm just a big mixed bag of emotions right now. I feel so worried and alone. Is it just me? Have other mummies to be felt like this??
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Of course other mummies have felt like this. Having a baby is a big deal. It's a huge life changing event. I was terrified! Plus all those emotional changes going on in your body can make you go loopy. Being at home those first few weeks you suddenly realise there are no adults to talk to and it can be confronting!
However it's really inportant you communicate how you are feeling to your GP just in case. It's ok to need someone to talk to while you transition into motherhood.
This is exactly how I feel! I have all the same worries. Am 4 months pregnant. It is such a massive change so normal to worry. Try to recognize when your thoughts are starting to cycle constantly in your head, acknowledge that is what's happening. Some will be real worries so what can you do about them? e.g. mother's group for socializing. And talk to your partner!
In regards to the bad heartburn - have a chat with your gp and make sure you are not suffering from gallstones.
Otherwise, you can do this! There is plenty of support available to new mums like playgroups, even visiting a midwife or nurse at the chemist or Dr surgery.
We have all felt like that! Even after 4 babies, I felt like that! The high doses of hormones and body and mind changes do not help, along with a fear of the unknown. Birth is daunting - it is nothing like you can guess it will be - it is harder but much more exhillirating than you could ever imagine!!!.... Just take each minute as it comes. The first time so much is unknown, it is very hard to plan. If some one offers to help, take it. Do not expect that you can do it all. For the first few weeks your reason for existence will be for baby. Then start to think about other stuff once you both start to settle. Think of it as an amazing new adventure and the most rewarding part of your life. I could not imagine my life without my 4 gorgeous kids xoxo
So normal! I cried lots thinking what have I done, how can I do it, ect lol! When my waters broke I started vomiting from being so scared and thinking I didn't want to do this any more! Even when bub was born it took a few weeks to feel like she was mine. Love her more then anything but it definitely grew more and more each day. I'm actually a single parent now and have been since she was little and don't have many friends which does make me sad but she is my world. The fact that you care that you won't be a good mum proves how you will be an excellent mum :)
please speak to your midwife about this at your next appointment. This was exactly me. I didnt tell anyone and it got out of control after bub came. It might not ALL come natural but it will come.