Could you post anonymously for me please?
Christmas with OHs family. Yay or nay?
Recently I've had to call police to take OH to hospital after a violent DV which included him threatening the lives of me and our children.
His family has backed him up saying 'it's just who he is, there's no substance in what he says'.
My bruises speak otherwise.
They still believe I over reacted.
They want to see the kids for Christmas but I also have something with my mother who I haven't seen for Christmas in two years. OHs family is a two hour drive from my mothers place and I really feel so mad that they could say such things about me and condone OH on his actions despite me sending through the recordings of him abusing me.
Knowing this, would you suck it up and take the kids to see everyone on OHs side and prepare yourself for comments and the cold shoulder or spend Christmas at moms place and advise they can drive to our place to see the kids if they wish after the festivities?
I'm at a loss as I've been told I'm selfish for not taking the kids to see everyone- but feel they are just going to tear me limb from limb for protecting the kids and myself.
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Hell no, I'd be going to see my family. Sorry they are emotionally abusing you, just as your partner is violent towards you. Can you see the pattern?
Also I really hope you don't still consider him your OH, I really hope he is your ex!
I would be going to my parents place and telling them firmly that their comments are hurtful and unappreciated. If they want to see you and the kids, they can come to you. Go be with your mum and enjoy xmas with your family
No bloody way!!! Take your kids and spend the day with your mum. Its a day for the kids and they dont need to be around toxic people
simply no. that's all I can say NO