I've been with my partner for 3 years, we have a son. When we met I was a size 12 and into excersise. Now I have gained 20kgs and am a size 16. I also don't exercise anymore. The other day we had a fight about my weight, he said I was morbitoly obese and that I was disgusting to look at. We also don't have sex, ever, not my choice. I know I need to lose weight I just need to find motivation but since he said those things I can't even look at him, i don't want to talk to him I don't feel anything for him excite for anger and hurt at the moment I am so upset, how can someone who loves you say those things? I just don't know how to get past it....
Cruel partner, I can't get past it
Cruel partner, I can't get past it
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You need to tell him how you feel.
You also need to know in your heart that you are beautiful and that he is being a douche.
If he truly believes what he has said then you deserve better, he will continue to be nasty unless you fit into his expectations / ideal partner. It's not up to him to tell you to exercise/look a certain way, it's up to you to decide how you want to be and also love yourself for who you are, inside and out.
It is up to your partner to support, encourage and love you with.
Incredibly cruel and heartless on his part. A real, strong charactered man would never say this to the woman he loves. What a pig. I was a size 10-12 when I met hubby, ballooned to nearly a 16 after kids. Not once did my husband say those words. Or anything even about my weight at all. And you can read this comment to your partner. I'm now the fittest, smallest and the most toned I've ever been. Size 8. I feel really good about myself and he has been totally supportive. Tell your partner, if he can't love you any shape or size, he can't have you when you get back into shape either! If you do want to, Michelle Bridges 12 week challenge is EXCELLENT. I did that. Last day to sign up for this season is today. Do it for YOU. get your confidence back, Mumma! Forget his words. It's a reflection on himself and his poor character.
A man that loved you wouldn't say those things. I wouldn't even try to get past it, I'd say he was a pathetic human being and disgusting to have to listen to, then leave. For real, I would not throw away a relationship frivolously but he's shown his true character and it's not a nice one.