I'm not sure if this is a question or just a rant but here goes!!
My hubby and I have been happily married for 7 years and have 2 beautiful kids with number 3 due next year. He's amazing and I love him dearly, he works hard to provide for us and treats me really well. But for the last 12 months or so I've just felt so flat, within myself and just with life in general. I've been to the Drs and had thyroid and iron checks so all good there. I work 1-2 days per week in a job I've been doing for 10 yrs that I used to love, but due to management and staff changes I now really dislike (but I figure the money helps and surely I can put up with it for a couple of days a week). I would love to do a particular online course so I can eventually change my career path but with the cost of Childcare I'm not sure it's viable for us until our kids are at school full time because of the practical training days you need to complete. That and I'm petrified of starting from scratch in a new workplace.
Quite a few times lately my hubby has said things 'jokingly', but I know that they are actually true and they've really hurt. Things like 'you'd be so much easier to by Xmas presents for if you weren't so boring and had a hobbie but your just a mum'. Or being told that I've let myself go after having the kids.
Both these things have been playing on my mind, because I know he's right. All I do is housework really and I still feel I'm never really on top of it. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone's been in a similar situation and if they found anyway of getting past it?
In a rut!!
In a rut!!
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Don't stay in your job! It's probably affecting you more than you realise. Now would be a good time to sit down and chat to your hubby about how you're feeling and working out if you can afford to do an online course, or at least stop working when bub comes and give yourself some you time. Maybe he can sense you're not yourself and his "jokes" are his way of trying to talk about it? I know my hubby goes about things in a round about way when he doesn't want to offend or get me upset (we really are from different planets lol). Hope you figure everything out ☺
I was in much the same position as you, I pulse written this. But I started lookin after myself more. I joined lose baby weight to drop my baby pounds I gained, get my hair done at the salon and not just don't myself and wear some make up. Bought myself a few new pairs of clothes. All for me. I have lost 12 kgs and I feel like a new person. And while I did it for myself I'm much happier so it affected my family in a really positive way too. You can do it, but you have to chose to.