I'm half way through my first and unplanned pregnancy. I have really started considering not wanting more than one child as I didn't want children in the first place. Don't get me wrong, I love my baby more than I could have imagined possible even though she's not in my arms yet but it's not something I would put myself through again. It seems like a lot of effort just to take care of one child just from seeing it first hand with friends and family but also on social media so I don't want to get pregnant again not to mention, I'm 20 so I'll want to make up for all the things I've missed (travelling). I'm more than able to take care of this one but like I said, unplanned.
My partner already has a child so he's got all the children in the world he should want but I was wondering about the ways of stopping myself from having children medically, the pros and cons, when did you get it done etc.
No More Children
No More Children
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Nothing more than contraception. You're very young. And pregnant! That's a lot of thoughts emotions life changes. All I will say is never say never, you never know what will happen in the next fifteen -twenty years.
As a mum who had my one and only at 20 I really do hear you. There are plenty of ways to prevent pregnancy but no 100% way. That's the thing with pregnancy. Even the so called permanent preventatives like tubal ligation have a small failure rate. My sister fell pregnant after having her tubal ligation, I've been lucky enough that I haven't :)
tubal ligation is not reversible, so if you change your mind later (and it does happen) you'd have to hope that you can afford IVF. I personally haven't changed my mind but I was in my mid 30s when I had mine done.
There are some longer term solutions now, that are worth trying/discussing with your doctor first and find a doctor to do tube tying at your age is impossible. Things like the mirena, or the implanon are great because you set and forget :) and last for years. I personally liked the Nuva Ring because you just change it once a month (set a reminder on my iPhone so I didn't forget). I liked the Nuva Ring because if I had a bad reaction to it I could remove it myself unlike the implanon and mirena. I had less side effects on the Nuva Ring compared to the pill (weight gain) and as I was one of the unlucky people who had a terrible reaction to implanon being able to control it myself was really important.
Also your partner could look into a vasectomy. If he is really done having kids and depending on his age. It's a very simple procedure, much lower risk, less invasive etc. a lot of my male friends have had it done and are very happy. However, I'm unsure if that's reversible so again might be no changing your mind.
I said to everyone that asked that I was only having one child. One was enough and I was perfectly happy. Now he's 3 years old and I think I want another one. It's a completely unexpected feeling. I wouldn't do anything permanent in terms of contraception just in case you change your mind. You never know.........