I have 3 children. My problem is with my 5.5yr old. He is a sweet kid but gets in to trouble every single day at school. We are trying a reward chart at home- if he is good at school he gets a sticker on his chart AND Time on the computer. But for the past couple of weeks he is naughty everyday. The teacher is fed up. And I completely understand that. I don't want to make excuses but His dad is fifo and I don't know when that will end. I jus haven't found what makes him tick- like what to entice him with so he makes the right choices or what to punish him with. Nothing works. He doesn't eat much processed food, and once I did eliminate processes food I was hoping to see a behavior change but I didn't. Please help. I don't want him to be labeled "the naughty kid" at school when he is only just starting.
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Honestly the entire diet thing is over rated, so don't feel bad about that.
Does he get enough sleep? Not getting enough/quality of sleep can make it hard to do the right things at school.
What exactly is he getting it trouble for at school? How is he progressing academically?
The problem with reward charts at home for behaviour at school is its too delayed. It's like punishing a kitten for peeing on the floor on Thursday when it happened on Monday. Consequences and reinforcement for 5 year olds needs to be pretty immediate. Most teachers in classrooms of 5 year olds will have reward systems and warning systems what is in place?
Sorry for all the question, I used to work with kids with behaviour issues and felt with more info I could give better advice
My son was exactly the same. teachers told me to get him checked for ADD/ADHD which I did.. Nothing. then he repeated prep and the teachers still carried on about ADD/ADHD, he was cleared by pead again.. Then when he moved to year 1 his teacher thought he might have trouble learning so they organised him to be tested.. BANG!! an answer!!. turns out he has a mild learning disability and they organized him a part time aide and all of his naughty behaviour went away.. He was miss behaving because he couldn't do the work.. Eliminate this problem as well. because my child had the language skills it was over looked by his prep teacher for 2 years..
Scrap the behavior chart at home, he would have one at school and he gets the punishment from that all the home one does is double punish him and carries it on to home when hes already had a bad day at school.
If you don't want him labeled the bad kid, don't treat him as the bad kid from the minute you pick him up. What happens at school stays at school. There is an interaction happening causing the behaviour, whether it's understanding, pressure, difficulty, jealousy, attention, whatever it is you and the teacher need to find out by narrowing down what happens in each situation.
Use home time to build his esteem, and remind him he is not a naughty boy he is a great boy who did a naughty behaviour at school that day.