I think this is more of a vent than anything.
We've been TTC for 3 years now. In that time 2 missed miscarriages and 1 chemical pregnancy. This is super hard on me and I'm sure it's not been easy on hubby either.
However I feel that when it comes to next steps, I'm alone. We had appointments with a fertility specialist. I had all the tests required, felt like a pin cushion. Hubby only needed one blood test and to provide one sample. He never did this. I then gave up as I was too embarrassed to go back to the specialist and explain that hubby never found the time to provide a sample.
So today I brought up adoption to which his response was "it's a long and hard process" and that was it. I feel like when I try to talk about this I get very little from him.
I love him with all I am and he's a wonderful father to our son. I just feel like I'm the only one who wants another child. I feel like it's not a priority for him at all.
And yes I've discussed this with him and he's always telling me that of course he wants another etc. but actions speak louder than words right? I just don't know what else to do. It just doesn't feel like he's in this with me 100%.
Anyone else been in this situation? It's hard enough knowing I can't carry a pregnancy through (well not officially knowing but three from three is not e best stat), dealing with this as well from him is slowly breaking me.
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I agree, will he go to a counsellor with you?
I'm wondering if emotionally he is struggling, and is shutting down/ disconnecting to cope? Giving a sperm sample can be confronting for some guys.
Or he may want a baby but not enough, if that makes sense. Like I want to be a ballerina but not enough to put up with the pain and the hours of training. Where as you would put up with anything it be a ballerina.