So I fear I've done something wrong. I recently met the parents in law. They're religious I'm not and their son doesn't seem to be. I stayed the night. In his room in his bed. We did have sex. Saying this he's a fully grown man he lives there because he works for them. I travelled to get to him and them. I didn't even stop and think about how they would feel about this. We always stay together especially if were in the same house. Sleeping apart isn't an option for us. We hardly get to see one another so anytime we get is precious. Neither of them said anything about this in the morning it was mentioned by a friend after the fact. I don't think I offended them. Well I really hope I haven't. I'm totally in love with this man we bring out the best in each other, he keeps a smile on my face all the time, even when were apart. Have I done something wrong? I know he was fine with it. He's the one that instigated it. But I don't want to upset the parents. I know I'm possibly worrying about nothing. Maybe they're cool with his beliefs. I don't know anymore here I was thinking it had gone so well and now I'm second guessing myself.
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If they had an issue with it they would have pre-warned their son and informed you where you were sleeping.
I've had sex with my fiancé in his parents house and they're not particularly religious, yet I still felt a bit weird about it. He instigated it not me.
I don't think you offended them. I guess you'll know if you're never invited back again lol.
I don't have to worry about the never being invited back thing :) she said I'll see you next time when I was leaving. She also had a smile on her face. He did mention that we'd probably kill each other with kindness when we first meet. She's a nice lady, I do look forward to seeing her again .
Well there you go. No offense was taken.
Keep doing what you're doing :)
If they had an issue i am sure they would have said something to their son and they would have made sure you were not in the same bed. i think you are over thinking things because of the seed your friend has planted. If you are still stressing you could always ask your man if they were upset.
I think he made it clear that we would be sharing a bed before I visited. She even changed the sheets. My friend only has good intentions but it hasn't helped with my overthinking. It's a bad habit I suppose. I intend to be out there again. And soon.
Trust your partners opinion on this one.
Depends really. From experience in families like you have mentioned if we are on same page of religious... you may be just his good time girl the fun before he settles. That is how some of my mates were treated the real challenge was when it became serious and marriage was mentioned. We do not know exactly what they are like but when I think religious family and think of my own experience it doesn't look good long term . It may be fine for you.
This is the response I was waiting for. We have spoken about children and me moving into the family home. He's a farmer running the family farm, while his parents are still there I won't move in. I have 3 children to a previous relationship he has none. I am totally aware that his parents may see me as his good time girl. But I am also aware that with their age and how long his mum has waited for her son to find someone that he would bring home to meet them and settle with that they may not see this as the case. We are always talking about the future and how I'll fit in as a farmers wife. His wife. Not saying that they will accept this, I'm not saying they won't. But I do know that when your hitting 70 and your son is almost 40 you need to accept his choice. They rarely talk, they aren't a talkative family and he's never introduced anyone to his mum or dad before. I know I'm different and I hope that they will accept me as good enough for him.