I just recently miscarriaged.. the pregnancy was at 8 weeks, went to the hospital the day before had a little bleed the scan was perfect then the next day I started to heavily bleed and lost it. I feel so lost and I'm so scared it would happen again.
I have a 2 1/2 year old now and didn't have any problems with bleeding throughout that pregnancy.
I just want know if they're is mum's out their that have been through something similar.
How did you cop with the lose? How long did it take to fall again? Was that pregnancy fine? How many miscarriages have you had? Why do I keep blaming myself? Asking if I could of done something better ?
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Hugs. I've had 2 miscarriages before I had my son. I didnt try to fall again for 2 years as we just bought a house and thought it be best to wait awhile but when we did try I fell pregnant in the first month of trying. Dont blame yourself you miscarry if there is something wrong with the fetus. Best of luck with the future
First of all I just want to say I'm very sorry for your loss. Sending big hugs your way.
I'd like to share my story with you in hope it helps you feel a little better and more confident in your next pregnancy, though I know everyone is different.
Last year, in April of 2014 I found out I was expecting my second child, I was ecstatic! What a blessing, we had a ultrasound at 8 weeks and our baby was perfect. At 13 weeks I started spotting, my doctor basically brushed it off and said it was nothing and sometimes just happens. At 13 weeks and 3days on June the 5th I woke up in the very early hours of the morning with mild cramping, I knew something was off but just let it go for about an hour when it started to get stronger I knew I needed to go to the hospital, it was 2 am and i woke my family. We got ready and as soon as we went to get in the car I felt a gush, much like you do when your water breaks in labour only it was blood, more blood than I'd ever seen in my life. We got to the hospital and apparently I was in extremely early labour, there was nothing they could do, it was to late my baby was gone. I will never forget this day, most of it was a haze but my precious angel will always hold a place in my heart.
I was hurt, angry and blamed myself even though I knew it wasn't my fault and there was nothing i could have done.
Fast forawrd to September 2nd I found out I was expecting again (we weren't trying or preventing) excited but cautious i worry about it happening again, the most painful moment of my life could have repeated itself and all to soon while the pain of the last was still incredible fresh, from 10 weeks I checked with a home Doppler that my babies heart was still beating almost ever day till I could feel him kicking away happily inside me, today a sit here typing this a I watch my beautiful healthy 6 month old sleep peacefully in his crib.
Don't be scared, I know it's hard. You will never forget your angel and the next pregnancy will be a huge deal and much harder due to the fear of another loss but you have to trust your body. Your rainbow could be just around the corner, I now know mine was. Give yourself as much time as you need.
Good luck with your healing and once again I am sorry for your loss.
I now have 4 beautiful babies, but miscarried before each of my first three. We tried again 3-6 months after each miscarriage, and fell pregnant again quite quickly each time. Each time was harder than the one before it, but it is now a distant memory. I'm thankful to have my gorgeous kids, and pray that you get the chance to add to your family too!
I miscarried at 6 weeks in April of this year...i have a 2.5 year old daughter. I had such an easy pregnancy with my daughter i was absolutely caught by surprise when this pregnancy wasnt viable. I took about 5 weeks to grieve my loss and every time someone announced their pregnancy i felt sick to my stomach. I didnt understand why this would have happened. My ob told me it is usually a chromosome mismatch or something and assured me it was better to happen now than later. I had an expected miscarriage without any medical interference eg a d & c so was able to try again shortly after. My ob encouraged me to try again soon as i would still be fertile. I did leave it a couple of months before i felt emotionally ready and did feel some pressure internally when it didnt happen immediately. Anyway i found an amazing accupunturist/naturopath who specializes in fertility and she was amazing for both my mental and physical health. I conceived in august so am almost 16 weeks now and have continued with her support as i have had some spotting and have felt extremely stressed in case i miscarried again. Take the time to grieve, dont be scared to try again but do it in your own time and with support. If you're comfortable talk to people about your miscarriage...i found out my mum, 2 good friends, my gym teacher had all also had miscarriages...it is more common than you think. Be kind to yourself and your body x