Hi IMS!
I have been on and off with a guy for about a year and a half, we have tried once or twice to make it work properly (not very hard I'll admit) but we have mostly been casual and just unable to stay away from each other for too long. Well now I'm pregnant.
I already have a child, I don't feel that I can bring another beautiful baby into the world right now as selfish as that may be and it will destroy me, I'm struggling as a parent, more than I ever thought I would, I just don't have my shit together!
Anyway this question isn't about whether I should keep the baby or not, it's about whether I should tell the guy if I plan to terminate anyway? Is it just cruel if Ive already make up my mind? I have no idea what I should do here! Please this all hard enough, so be kind.
Thank you
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Honestly, I don't think I'd tell. Why potentially complicate things if you've made up your mind. The only reason I would tell us if I thought the relationship had a future. Going forward in a serious relationship that's a big secret to keep. So I would probably end things now with him. There is a reason you haven't made a go of it together.
PS the only right thing to do is look after yourself and your child.
I might tell if I needed support. Men can be nice and supportive too, especially if you don't plan on telling anyone else.
I dont think you have to tell him, but its Ok if you do or feel you want to. All the best x