Hi,
I'm married, with a 2 year old gorgeous girl and currently heavily pregnant with bub #2. My husband has always been immature in many ways and doesn't help me around the house. He is 36 yet he makes me feel like the parent and him the child. I struggled with PND after my first baby, and am currently feeling depressed in this pregnancy (I'm seeing a psychiatrist and psychologist to help me keep PND away this time around). I'm feeling very good psychologically (except the issues with hubby) and just struggling with a lot of nausea still, back pain, and extreme fatigue. Despite this, husband is still acting like a rebellious teenager each time I ask him to help me with something. He gets all stressed and starts yelling even if asked to do the smallest chore, and it's making me miserable. I've threatened to leave, discussed a small separation, and tried being extra nice and patient to help him through his anger issues, but I'm really running out of patience. I don't know what more to do to make him realise he is hurting me and his children if he doesn't step up to the plate and take on some responsibilities. Any suggestions?
Pregnant with #2 and husband won't help
Pregnant with #2 and husband won't help
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I really feel for you I went through a lot of marriage problems when I was pregnant with our second and our first bub was also two! I think a lot of the anger/frustration from men comes from them not knowing how to express their emotions effectively. However this is not fair on you as you need lots of physical and emotional support at this time. I also had severe pnd after my two babies and I think pnd takes it's toll on partners aswell. See if you can just have some couple time before the birth just to talk they both of your fears and expectations. We found this really helped. The most important bit of advice is to look after yourself, do nice things for yourself even when bubs is born and you will be busy managing two!