Hi sorry for long post not really sure what I'm asking!!
Lately I've had In home help support, but every time the lady comes around she's always brings stuff about SIDS and makes me feel like I'm not a mother to my two boys, I can't handle confrontation with people and every time she is here instead of helping me, she makes me run after her and do everything and I end up in tear for the rest of the day when she leaves, my husband is worried that she's going to cause me to end up in a mental institution and he's trying to her her to stay away for me but she's not listening I'm already on antidepressants (my doctor has upped the doseage since this lady has been here).
She has also been bad mouthing my husband in front of him but he won't verbally or physically hurt a woman,
Shes also said that my youngest boy should never be on his belly and that I am willingly putting him to his death ( because of the way he power vomits my doctor has told me to keep him on his belly as much as I can so he doesn't choke to death on his own vomit or drool) when she is here she makes me feel like grabbing a knife and ending my own life. Idk what to do anymore I know I can't handle her crap any longer but I'm also shit scared of confrontation!!
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Talk to the service provider directly. They are used to handling these situations with out fuss and without confrontation. I also receive in home care for my son, there was a worker who just didn't click with my son and I. They swapped the carer for a new one. It was so much better.
They go out of there way to find a correct fit, so if this worker isn't the correct fit they will want to know so they can change it. If you can't ring get hubby to ring or ask a friend or family member to ring.
Oh my, don't do anything drastic, so not worth it! Get this person out of your life and have them send someone new who will actually support you. I think they have the issue honey, not you. Stay strong and get this sorted and I'm sure life will be more pleasant in no time xx Best wishes!