I don't know what to do my poor brother has done a lot for his (now) ex gf and their daughter.
They broke up 2days ago and she is now dating his best friend. He doesn't care about the best friend thing cause he's so far over it and the way she was treating him he just wants it to end. I don't want to harm my relationship with her cause we do have a good one and I love my niece with all my heart I'm also pregnant and they will be a little over a year apart and it's very important to me they grow up knowing each other as we didn't really have that when we were growing up. But I don't know how to help him. He has a job good stable. But he does everything for their daughter from looking after her at night time then does all the hours at work he can so give her and her mother everything (the mother) asks for. Then looks after her when he's finished work. The mother doesn't do much at all and it's been annoying us for a while.
She's money hungry and spends it all on herself. She's asked for money from our mum for essentials and 3days later is getting a new tattoo or parcels sent to the house of things she's bough online.
I don't no what to do to help him. Can anyone suggest anything. There not going through court (as of yet) but I can see how she's either going to use my niece against him or use him to dump my niece on so she can go out with the new boyfriend.
Sorry this has kinda come out as a rant, but any advice would be lovely. I just want my niece to have a great life and my brother as well
How do I help my brother with my niece after her mother has left him for his best friend and seems neglectful??
How do I help my brother with my niece after her mother has left him for his best friend and seems neglectful??
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It's not your monkeys. It's up to him to fix it. You can be an emotional support but it's not really dumping a child if you leave them with there own dad! If this was in reverse it would be considered socially acceptable. Why wouldn't he want to raise his own daughter? That's what dads do.
You can be an emotional support, you can offer babysitting if he'd like an occasional night out but this is his burden to bare just like if he was a woman and her boyfriend ran off leaving her with a child.
Maybe just a simple, "I'm here if you need anything", or invite your brother and niece round for dinner, or offer to look after her so he can have a break . ..sounds like he could do with one . ...