14 months ago I gave birth to my beautiful daughter, my partners mum wanted to be there for the birth but I didn't want her there. I asked him months before the birth to tell her this but he didn't. Come to the day I have her..because I was induced he called her and said don't come down, I'm staying at the hospital aswell so nobody will be home etc etc. she know hates me for this, refuses to have anything to do with my daughter and is making it hell for my partner and I. I'm at my wits end, I feel like I don't want to marry into that family because of her. She told my partner she feels rejected and on the outter but it's my body and I didn't want her there. Should I really be apologising for something I wanted?! No idea what I'm asking, maybe just advice.
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Nope dont apologize it's completely your choice and your right. I compromised and lost a big part of what should have been my own special time because of it.
However, you could try to fix the breakdown by apologizing that she feels rejected etc, let her know it wasn't rejection it's just how your instincts wanted things for the birth, but you really want her in your and grandkids lives.Etc etc.
Don't expect understanding she's made it all about her when anybody knows it should be all about you.
Nope, you shouldn't at all, ridiculous!
Maybe write her a letter saying you would have felt uncomfortable having anyone see your VAGINA and that you are sorry but you had asked hubby to tell you that early in the pregnancy but didn't but you told your side of the family, you didn't want anyone to see your VAGINA.
Hahah.... oh this made me laugh.
That's really helpful!
She sounds crazy. I have a crazy MIL. All I can say is good luck! The less I have to do with mine the better. Just smile. Be nice. Don't take her crap on board.
No you shouldnt, I am still mad at my mum (not ignoring her or excluding her but still feel annoyed ) for calling my step mum to be there for birth as she could not be. I didnt want her there yet she felt it her place to be. I didnt argue as I was in full blown labor. If I had a choice I would not have had her there and would have preferred just hubby. It is your body and YOUR choice. She needs to get over it as it is not her body or moment to be upset about.
Had same thing happened to me. Was told that I need to consider other people's feelings and that I was selfish...
OMG, how dare she ask in the first place. Its not her place to be there. She sounds like a nightmare.