Hi IMs
Does anyone have any advice or have experienced this? My children spend time with me, and time with their father - approximately 50/50. His circumstances have changed - previously his partner was responsible for quite a lot of organisation and parenting. They aren't together anymore.
My children - particularly the eldest who is in high school - are missing a significant amount of school. Little things - tummy ache, coughed too much in the night, "migraine" etc. The children will admit to me they were well enough to go but dad wasn't bothered to take them.
This week the eldest who's struggling at school has missed 2 days. I phoned dad and he told me it was only 1 day with a "migraine". I have phoned the school and they've confirmed it was 2 days. Each alternate week they are with him, at least 2 out of 3 of the kids will miss a day/days off school.
My ex has a strong history of being untruthful so I'm familiar with trying to cope with this. However, what do I do about the children missing school? We've spoken about it and I've made him aware it's important they all attend. To my face he agrees.
Has anybody else had to deal with this problem?
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Is there a court order in place?
You could try taking him back to mediation that might scare him straight so to speak or give you the kids more so he has them weekends when they dont have school. You will have the records from the school to back you up.
I agree! And I'd also tell him that there are legal consequences for a child missing school, in case mediation doesn't scare him enough.
Most schools have notification systems for absences that you will be text messaged by 10:30 if they aren't there. I would register for the service and if I got a message I would go and pick them up and take them to school. Just the embarrassment of you constantly making appearances should be enough.
If not then mediation and the share care privileges are revoked absenteeism is a serious problem. Particularly if she is already behind if she is having migraines why isn't she at the doctor. They dont last a night they last days
Yes! And unfortunately now o pick my son up and take him to school. I may as well have full custody! Its ridiculous!