Does anyone know of any advocacy groups (national or in Brisbane) for men in family separations? Long story short, there has been a lot of fraud and false allegations, already talking to Legal Aid, filed police reports, etc. Asking for a friend who needs support from someone who understands...
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Fathers4Equality Ash Patil on facebook is the founder but I think he did eventually create a page
https://m.facebook.com/fathers4equality
http://www.fathers4equality-australia.org/child-custody-and-family-law
be careful which groups you send him too quite a few are actually quite rabid and have no interest in maintaining their credibility, their cases are decades old and they are quite bitter and at this point their cases have been justified by their venom and lashing out.
I was a fathers rights advocate during the 2004 election and for the better part of a decade before. I only left to keep the peace when I had to leave my husband. I was one of the groups founding members, second only to Ash. the leaders knew I had to leave but there was no explaining to the masses the situation I was in.
also call Mensline https://www.mensline.org.au
they are great for support and google dads of the air http://www.dadsontheair.com.au
https://www.reddit.com/r/fathers4equality found the forum they are currently using they had tried self hosted for a while after yahoo groups closed down but they have loads of brisbane members and I could put him in touch with a QLD compassionate dad if necessary, we have stayed in touch.
http://www.familylawexpress.com.au omg NICE work ash he has launched this site just this year
http://flwg.com.au/pg/start also this one can't vouch for it but they are active and moderate to stop them politicising it all.
oh a huge warning...warn him to stay as far away from the term Parental Alienation Syndrome as possible. it isn't a legitimate diagnosis...and in court it makes you look like a tin foil hat wearing loony. the reason it isn't legitimate is those forms of psychological abuse do result in mental illness but they are mental illness which already exist they are called ptsd and various other things. so no its never going to reach the DSM its just a catch phrase for all the validity it has.
himself has been neck deep in fathers and mens rights stuff for the last two years, havent really told him much beyond that i was involved in the early years but according to him fathers4equality is still right up there i probably just havent found their current location so its worth hunting them down.
he doesnt like that as step dad his rights don't amount to much but I understand where he is coming from I was a step mum, kinda still am she started talking to me again a few weeks ago just after her dad evaporated off the radar. she is 19 might be 20 just last month *grabs calculator* HOLYCRAP! she just hit 21 fuck I'm old I've been her step mum since she was 3.
I might be flavour of the month because his last girlfriend had him charged she is fighting with her mother and her father has vanished off the map....but thats ok she still remembers mine was the sane voice in her ear all those years...and that's why she loves me.
Given current circumstances I did the awful thing and insist she prove somehow even if it was a message from her mum that it was her...but she did, made me cry...
Poor kid I noticed she was having hallucinations from some of the stuff she was writing on facebook, about would be 6 years ago now....quietly directed her to headspace even gave her directions from the high school. 6 months later during his visit he was all bragging about how well she was doing with all these activities and support at headspace and I just nodded and said that's nice.