Sorry for the long story but I feel extremely lost...
I'm 45 years old and been through the ringer. I'm a nurse so unfortunately caring by nature. Not sure exactly what I'm asking for except how to cope and just forget... I split up from my partner of 5 years early this year. We'd previously been childhood sweethearts at 15. Seen each other once in 25 years. Both had families and we're single. Found each other through Facebook, caught up wengt out together for a couple years. Split and found out he'd been cheating on and off for a year with the same woman. Had a break after a while started seeing him again, asked me and my son to move in as he was so sorry and missed us. Stupidly I loved him and said yes.
2 years later found out he'd been texting other females inappropriate texts while I was at work. In the time we had been with each other I have done my nursing diploma and now at uni doing my degree. I had had no contact with him for around 4 mths. Weeks ago I'd gotten texts from him while alcohol affected, then calls. I text him stating I didn't eat to open old wounds so I didn't want to talk.
He kept ringing and I answered. Long story cut short. Said he loves me and misses me and realised what he did and I'm an awesome person. So texts started again, told him I just wanted to be friends. But we kept texting. He sent pics of him and mates new pics in the house and stuff with the car. He was telling me he had been to hospital twice as he is having severe chest pains, stated his daughter was on ice and he wasnt coping and sounded suicidal. He knows just how to work my heart. As I loved him I was so worried and got caught up in how he was. I caught up with him to tell him I don't want to continue the texts as I'm getting too caught up worrying about him and enjoying his company. Only to find out he's now been seeing someone else and starting a new relationship.
I rang and blasted him telling him how cruel he is and I feel sorry for his new girlfriend. Does she know he's been ringing me.
Question is how do I move past this. I just want to name and shame him as I'm so angry he's played with my heart yet again and feel so stupid when I know what he's like. He knows my weaknesses. Help I feel like I'm going crazy..
Sucked in once again.
Sucked in once again.
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Block his phone number from your phone, block him from social media etc. he is an arse..the new woman won't reject him over his crap because he knows what to say to get out if it. Thank your lucky stars things didn't go any further.
Are you prepared to cut him off completely? I'm talking change-your-number and block-him-on-facebook cut him off?
Because it sounds to me as though he is using you as a safe haven he can keep on coming back to, as a base to work from while he continues to fish around for other women.
You're definitely not his first choice and it would appear that he is happy to keep you on the back burner - as long as you continue to let him do so.
Don't limit yourself to this man. You still potentially have many more dating years ahead of you and there are plenty more fish in the sea.
You deserve so much better!
Maybe it's time to focus on YOU for a change?
I've already blocked him from Facebook, deleted his phone number and added him to a blocked list on my phone so that he can't ring or text me. I just need to concentrate on my life and build back my self esteem and learn how the hell I will ever trust again.
Realise that you will always receive drunken texts from him ever and always until you change your phone number......it is what he does....if he has your number he will do it