I am so tired of my life right now I want to run away!! I love my children to pieces and would never leave them obviously but my husband is toying with my feelings and I can't handle it!! I love him and I know he loves me. We have been trying for a baby on and off for probably a year. He agrees to a third , than changes his mind, baby back on then changes his mind. I am sick of him crushing my heart!!! So now baby is off the cards AGain!! I have slowly accumulated a few things(actually when I go through it there is quite a bit) do I sit down with him and say I need a final answer before I sell all this stuff. I know I got my hopes up, but I believe it would have happened if given half a chance and I wanted to get things bit by bit to held financially. But now I have heaps of brand new outfits, sheets sets etc still with tags on. I am upset as I went through it all to see how much it cost and what I could sell it for. I am just sick of my emotions being played with. Thanks for listening/ reading.
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Do not let him play this game. Stop believing him. Don't talk to him about it anymore as he will only change his mind again and again and again. Stop it. I know it's not fair and your husband is being an arse. But don't let him play you as it is just making you feel worse. If he brings it up tell him he is an asshole and you will no longer discuss it with him because he is a game player.
He was on again off again for baby making but we eventually found out he cant (the issue wasn't my endo)
When he is willing focus on jumping into bed rather than shopping. ....throw it all in a bag and put it away and if you need to go to a baby shower grab a gift out of a bag....and no more shopping
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If it happens it happens if it doesn't it doesnt is the resolve I ended up making. I purchased a cot cheap from family members only because my children will be needing it inside of the next 10 years and friends are having babies...the price they wanted for an immaculate very nice timber cot I couldn't walk past....otherwise I would own no baby gear at all.....I buy only once a test shows I need to start getting it all together.
By buying all the stuff you could just as well be triggering the cold feet which is what leads to the no.