*language warning*
I would like to know others suggestions on approaching my neighbour about what we can hear coming from their house. We live on a strange block where 4 homes share one big driveway. Recently I heard my 3 & 5 year old sons outside on our trampoline yelling out the C word. I was mortified. When I asked them what they were saying my eldest said cunt. I asked him what he thought that meant and where did he hear it and he said, "I dunno, we heard (the lady next door) telling the guy to fuck her cunt" I just about died on the spot. My husband and I talked to our boys and tried to not make a big deal out of it and that they were adult words. Later that night I was outside bringing the washing in and I heard them myself, having sex and saying things like "stick your cock in my cunt"! My question is, how do I approach this with my neighbour? She is a lovely lady and I know she will be mortified to know that we can hear her let alone that my children have heard her. It's more the filthy porn star language coming out of her mouth that concerns me.
How to approach neighbour about what we can hear
How to approach neighbour about what we can hear
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She's entitled to say whatever she likes in her own home.. The volume of it though is a different story. I'd write her a letter saying something like, "dear neighbour,
I'd just like to inform you that my children and I have heard some rather colourful language used by yourself. While you have every right to speak how ever you like in your own home, I would really appreciate it if the volume could come down a little."
If she's as lovely as you say, she will fix this quick smart :)
I'd probably do an anonymous note in the letter box personally. Leave the fact that the kids repeated it out of it if you don't want to be identified (unless there's lots of kids around). I'm more thinking of anonymity in case she ever tries to talk to you about it because I personally would be too mortified to have that conversation as the hearer, let alone the sayer!
Yeah i'd be going with an anonymous note like everyone else has said.
I'd also do an anonymous note in the letterbox. I'd include recent phrases heard so she is aware of exactly how loud it is BUT I'd be very general in all other aspects of the note so that she cannot guess who it came from, just in case things don't go the way you'd expect them to and she takes it badly.
This is one instance where niceties be damned. I'd knock on the door and tell her what just came out of my (your)childs mouth. As an adult, how she feels about it is up to her but it needs to stop immediately and a face to face chat means no "lost letter" and no excuses.
Depending on ur relationship depends on a talk or a letter is best suited.
but honestly id be tempted to answer her, say something like beg for it and I will, oh how I want u.
might scare/embarrass her enough to get the point that she can be heard.