Hi mummy's, I'm a single mum, I currently have 2 boys aged 9 (10 very soon) and a 5 year old. I'm currently 12 weeks pregnant and I feel like I'm doing it all on my own. The father of this child wanted me to terminate and I didn't and now I feel although I have Noone. I do have a supportive family but I feel like I can't talk to them about things. I guess I just need to get a few things off my chest. I have my 12 week scan tomorrow, I've been going to the drs for check ups on my own so far. I haven't told any friends about this pregnancy yet. I feel a little embarrassed that I'm yet again doing this on my own. The father of my youngest son has nothing to do with my youngest only when it suits him and that's something that also really frustrates me. I never also so for any thing I don't ask for help. I don't even know why I'm writing here. I feel all emotions very easily
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*hug* you know you can do this. You have done it before. Vent away it is really difficult when you feel that those around you won't so much dont listen but don't hear what you are saying. That sometimes all you need is an ear and a shoulder not necessarily a stretcher.
You've done it before and can do it again. You know how to make it work. It's probably a good idea to discuss with your GP how you are feeling as they can organise someone to give you emotional supports. As the other responder said, vent away.
I was in a similar situation. The father to my eldest was a DV relationship do I did it alone with limited support so I did the hard yards. Fast forward to 2 years later I met someone & hed said he wanted kids do bad but had fertility issues & couldn't have them then I fell pregnant & he wanted me to terminate. I couldn't speak to him about the pregnancy I was very much alone, he partied heavily & wasn't any emotional or any support until I went into hospital. He was great for a few weeks then back to partying ect & recently found out he emotionally cheated while I was waiting to have Bub & throughout the relationship. I felt so ashamed & embarrassed when I was pregnant that I didn't tell anyone hardly I just tried to hide it because here I was going thru the same thing alone something I never wanted to do alone again I wanted a stable happy pregnancy cause I didn't get that the first time round, I wanted a real family. My daughter is now 5 months she's had colic & reflux & I've had such a hard time with next to no support. He still isn't the father he promised to be & im not sure he ever will be. I understand how you feel about the pregnancy it's hard but I don't regret my daughter at all. Hugs to you & good luck with your scan. I know it took me up until a few weeks before my daughter was born to accept the pregnancy I still struggle to accept the situation.