This will probably be long winded but I will try not to ramble. My life is disorganised chaos, I am a sahm of two 4 & 3 with a FIFO partner, I have always been disorganised but previously it really only affected me, now it's rubbing off my my kids, I'm always late, always forgetting important things or looking for important things, my house is trashed and it all feels out of control. This is how I grew up my mother was the same, I'm worried about how we are going to go with my daughter starting school next year and all that it entails. I have tried so many times with diaries, lists, white boards but nothing works longer than a week or two.
It causes friction with my partner and I feel like I miss so much positive because of all the chaos, how do I learn these tools? Are there professionals to help or am I a list cause who needs to just grow up???? Feel so lost
Organisation??
Organisation??
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You could actually try a psychologist. But what it comes down to is creating habits. Getting one habit down at a time, making sure that habit is well entrenched before you start a new one.
I also think not hoarding and buying too much stuff is also part of this. It is impossible to stay organised if you have too much stuff. Too much stuff makes me feel overwhelmed and confused and chaotic. I can't think straight when I have so much clutter. Im not talking living in a sterile environment but there is a happy medium.
There are professional organisers that can help you organise your stuff, get storage etc, but I think a psychologist can really help with that habit change.
Hey I was very similar. Pick your battles and work on the one at a time. For example I was always late and so I started setting an alarm 1.5hr before need to leave and getting kids ready then and then just waiting.
With the housework I was really cluttered and spoke to hubby about how overwhelmed I felt and we started to do one room a month on a wkend and get that room completely clean and junk free then I'd spend next few wks clearing that room every day making sure it was clean and then add a second room after the next clean out etc etc.
It can be so overwhelming looking as a whole and I totally understand, maybe set small goals and allow time in between each to adjust to doing it and in 12mths life will be completely different