I had written a post earlier about my partners strange behaviour, becoming abusing verbally and leaving the home on Friday...... Since then I have discovered that he has a Codiene addiction which he has been topping up with alcohol... he has collected some of his things and attempted to tell me about it (I don't have full capacity to hear all about it yet) however I don't believe he is ready to fully address his issues... he is at my brothers house & I believe he's already had 1 drink tonight! I believe that this could have perhaps been a problem which he has hidden from me for up to 3 years... I'm not sure. How do I deal with this, I can't stand it & I have just locked my door & am taking a vow of silence until I work out the right thing to do. fyi he was a reformed drug user for nearly 20 years.
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I would contact al anon as a starting point
http://www.al-anon.org/australia/
Doesnt surprise me at all which state are you in? There are drug and alcohol services. Acso is currently handling all referrals in victoria
Nsw
Alcohol and Drug Information Service (ADIS)
Sydney: 02 9361 8000
Regional NSW: 1800 422 599
A 24-hour confidential information, advice and referral telephone service. - See more at: http://www.druginfo.adf.org.au/contact-numbers/help-and-support#sthash.K...
Himself has a codeine addiction....he was prescribed very strong opiods but no that wasn't what he developed the addiction....it was the bulk boxes of analgesic calmative from the pharmacy OTC.
There are ways to help him come off and more importantly there are better ways to manage pain. Nothing wrong with keeping him at Arms length while these things are put in place....he was nasty and volatile until they were....took the better part of 18 months for him to realise he was addicted...he couldn't be told....
Just found your original post *hug* a full 18 months we were dealing with such meltdowns. It does improve but only once they are in treatment and are supported.
It started out the same for him, prescribed Endone & Oxy for too long after he broke his neck & had surgery in 2012. I had thought we had managed this way back then. I've been told he has been purchasing OTC as a main source however I have some hard evidence that he has got others to give him panadeine forte, endone etc... one being his mother who has a serious leg injury (from a few years ago) but seems to get a lot of panadeine forte prescriptions... I'm positive she is giving it to him!
The rages are just starting now however looking back there are now many other signs... for a once passive lovely man his personality has been changing over time, his beautiful baby face has aged & is always red, dry mouth, lack of libido & more... it all stacks up in to place now.
I need to keep him at arms length right now, there's been a lot more let downs over the years & I just can't be there to pick the pieces up this time... I don't think I've ever been this pissed off or this sad!
I hope all is improving for you & your kids ♡♡♡
*HUG* it is....
We have supported him for mental health treatment in the past but I had truck loads of other more critical shit to deal with when he was finally ready to address his addiction....just because you can't deal with him now doesnt mean things won't improve. .....demand your space have your space and insist he sort this shit out himself
.....because he can....he is big and ugly enough
By supported I didn't mean us or you I was referring to addiction counsellors, mind case workers etc
My husband has a codeine addiction for the last 3.5 years. Up to 40 tablets a day. Our marriage ended 6 weeks ago and we have 2 kids. If you think there is a problem best to see if you can get him to a dr as it may get worse. I hope not! Hang in there xxxx
I'm so sorry to hear this. I have no idea how much he is taking.... we have 2 kids too, I'm devastated Thank you for sharing x