I have a 4yo boy and hub number 2 due in a months time. My 4yo has recently being playing up so much that I end up in tears several times a day. He won't listen to me, he hits and kicks, spits, screams, throws things at me etc... etc... He has never been this type of child and I'm pretty sure it is due to the pending arrival of his brother/sister but I'm just not sure how best to handle the situation. Being 36weeks pregnant I'm tired, emotional, stressed and unable to lift/chase him which he knows and takes full advantage of. I understand that what is about to happen to him is life changing and really feel for him.
In your opinion, what is the best way to handle this situation? How can I nip it in the bud before bub arrives?
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There's books you can get that explain mum n dad still loves him even though a baby comes. (no idea on names sorry.)
id find a type of discipline that affects him, ie removal of toys even if you through them in bags n lock in shed.
don't chase. I know that sounds hard but wait for him to come back by ignoring him n once he thinks he's gotten away with it n settles then discipline. What ever you use be firm n stick with it.
if he hits you its an instant drag to room n shut door, hold it shut until he stops trying topull it open. N explain mummy is sorry but you will not hurt mummy, when you are ready to be nice n say sorry you can come n speak with me. Stay close to room so he can't do runner, but out of view if possible.
most of the good moments reward positive behavior n explain ever chance you get how much fun having a baby will be n how much u will need a big boy to help, how u will love baby but u will love him too. Make sure your relationship wont change n he knows it.