Hello IMs. I am just wondering if there is any one that can tell me about supervised visits.
Brief back ground. I left my partner due to DV and am due to have a baby in the next few weeks. I have seen my lawyer and been through what I am going to do when my child is born, such as not listing him as the father. I am praying he decides to leave us be but there is a chance he will apply for a DNA test. I am very scad to leave my baby alone with him even for a minute as he is a child him self. When we were together I was the one who cooked for his daughter (who is his ex's child) bathed her etc if I didn't do the cooking she was given bake beans on toast. And when she was to wake in the morning and climb into bed with us she would ask for breakfast and she would be asking to 11am at times to i couldn't stand her being hungry and gave in to his bad parenting and gave the little one breakfast, on the rare occasion he gave her breakfast he would put food in front of her and go back to bed! She was very young and could of chocked or fallen off the stool so i would get up to watch her, I didn't mind doing this as i saw her as mine and still do (i have no contact now as i know that will be putting my child in his hands) but he should of been taking responsibilities and watching her and meeting her needs instead he would sleep to the afternoon. When bed time came he would be on the play station and she would be in bed calling for a book and he would tell me that she needs to learn to just go to sleep when i said i wanted to read to her. So she would fall asleep crying. When I was to leave where i took out a restraining order he sent me videos he had taken of his daughter crying for me and his telling her i had abandoned her. He then sent them to me telling me i was going to hell for breaking her heart and if i don't come back to him i am the worst mother/step mother in this world.
I have talked to the police and my lawyer and I have shown the video evidence that he is emotionally abusive to his daughter, They have told me if he is lucky he will be given supervised visits. I was just wondering if someone could tell me how they work. Are they aloud to bring along friends or family such as parents? I have also heard that if they are well behaved and do every thing right during the visits they are then aloud one on one time, and i know he will be well behaved and do every thing that is expected as he is very calculated and cunning and this worries me to because it isn't to the door is closed he shows his true colours. Will supervised visits be granted with a new born that i will be breastfeeding?
Also is it possible for his parents (who are in a DV marriage also) to fight me for custody?
I am seeing my lawyer again when my child arrives I just thought knowing a few things now would give me a piece of mind x
Supervised Visits
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Ok try not to worry about things that haven't happened yet. A lot of these guys get bored and go away when they realise you aren't coming back. A lot don't bit a lot do. So he may decide it's not worth the effort like my sons dad. Surprisingly even the most calculating and cunning abusers screw up the supervised visitation by not turning up, turning up late, and being rude to staff. They can pretend for awhile but they can't keep it up, it isn't long before they get frustrated and return to form.
On the breast feeds the visits are very short and can be in between feeds. It will take ages for you to get through the entire DNA process etc anyway so that will make the baby well and truly a few months along. The court system is very slow.
my ex has only really been interested in seeing the kids when he has a girlfriend to impress.....try not to worry too much. it is unlikely your ex's parents will apply for custody and they basically have to prove you use meth heroin and sleep in a pool of puke to have even a remote chance at a case to begin with