I need your advice please. I am a stay at home mum of 4 kids. Hubby works to support us financially while I have an at home business, which helps a little. We are on a relatively low income and make the best of what we have. Paying bills is a struggle, but we get there. My issue is hubby's family. They are so money hungry. Hubby is regularly bailing his family out. He has taken out a credit card and personal loan to pay for their bills. He has gone behind my back to get the credit card and personal loan. When I found out I went off. Firstly, he went behind my back. Secondly, when i questioned the amount he has and is still currently helping, he has lied about it. We are currently talking $10,000. This is after earlier this year, this family member received an inheritance. That money was wasted and not used towards bills. How do I break this cycle? Hubby is putting his parents financial needs above our own and refuses to talk about it with me. He says he works, he will spend the money as he sees fit!
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Oh hell no! He has a family to support, his parents and family are not his problem! His own family comes first and if there is money left over and you BOTH agree to help them out then that's fine, but he should not ever be putting you into debt to help them unless you both agree on it! What an arse!!!
No way! This happened to us but it was 40,000. Never again.
Is there a specific reason behind the poor money management I. E. Addiction, illness, crisis or else?
Set rules. We help family out if necessary but only if we actually have the money to give....never go into debt to do it.
What the?? Hell no. He's got a family he's responsible for. But I've seen a friends husband doing similar and.I know the arguments can go round and round, the fact is you shouldn't have to argue this, negotiate this, educate him, nothing.
He's just not prioritizing your family and.you deserve better. And he's definitely not.respecting your opinion or role in it, doing it behind your back anyway.