Hi im's. My husband is my everything, it is my 2nd marriage, his 1st. We have a great relationship & apart from financial problems (who doesn't?) we get on great & love being together. We have been together 7 years now.
........... My husband has aspergers. He has zero social life. It doesn't bother him & he is quite happy to play his video games when I go out with friends & we do stuff together. He has no problem with me having a social life & encourages me to spend time with the few friends I have. He loves to see me happy :-)
My gripe is that my family have not accepted him as a part of our large & very close family. I have explained to them that he has social problems due to his aspergers, but they make NO effort to include him in family stuff, even general conversation. OMG it makes me soooo mad!!!!
I love him with all my heart & have tried to encourage relations on both sides, they just don't seem to give a shit & my hubby just doesn't get why I get upset as it doesn't bother him at all!!!!
My problem is that my sisters are now isolating me because of my husband. I feel left out & uunlove, especially by my 2 sisters. My 2 sisters & I were always super close, up until I married my husband. I just want everyone to love my hubby as much as I do!!!
I think its the fact that they don't try to understand him, or even make an effort to include him or even talk to him that really gets to me.
I must add that I work with autistic & aspergers children, so I know more than enough about ppl on the spectrum.
I don't know what to do about it all. My sister no longer invites us to family stuff. When we do catch up with family, I feel the need to protect him. If I sit with him, no one will talk to either of us.
I feel like they just don't like him, even though they know he has aspergers, they just think we are rude & unsocial.
I don't know how to change it. I want my family to at least make an effort, but they won't/can't/don't.
Husband with no social skills
Husband with no social skills
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2 Replies
I'm an aspie myself. If he doesn't care that they aren't conversing with him, then you shouldn't care. As long as he isn't upset then let it go. He is probably happier if they don't try and talk to him too much and more relaxed if everyone gets on with the family gathering around him. I know I'm perfectly happy being on the outer of the conversations in those situations.
I could also see that trying to force a relationship could make people more distant.
We tend to catch up with my sisters alone without partners quite a bit, it works for us, and our partners are quite happy to go do something else for a few hours :)
Well it is there loss. Your husband sounds like a lovely man and you sound like a beautiful woman. Sorry no advice but just wanted to say that :-) wishing you all the best.