Hi , I just want to ask anyone that has helpful advice please.... How do I go about ignoring and moving on from the fact that my sons father wants nothing to do with him. My son is 4 years old and I feel that I have vented and annoyed to many people on my Facebook and in private talks. I can't seem to move on from it. I'm trying , by being busy , having fun with my kids (my other two are in the same boat with their dad and I struggled to come to terms with that for a while too). I just do not understand how someone can sit back and complain that they don't get to see their son even though I always took our son to him. And now for the millionth time of trying to get back with me and me saying no (due to DV) he has now said that he wants nothing to do with him. I just don't get it. I want to scream it out to the world how wrong it is. I know I shouldn't let it affect me like this but I'm a sensitive person as it is and I'm so sick of raising kids by myself when I didn't lay down and get myself pregnant. I'm worn out. I need a break and I don't even get that at all due to these "losers" that have the nerve to call themselves "dad" when they want nothing to do with them but yet whinge to everyone that they don't see them , making me look like I'm the bad person. I have never once stopped my kids from seeing their dad's. EVER!!!!
I just need coping mechanisms on how to get over feeling so upset for my kids. I study full time and lately just don't even feel motivated to do that.
Moving on from kids father not wanting anything to do with him.
Moving on from kids father not wanting anything to do with him.
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Firstly you need to tell who ever it is, that's telling you, what your ex is saying, to shut up! Stop letting people gossip to you about your ex. Tell them you don't want to know what he says and that they need to stop telling you what he says. Block him on social media so you can't see what he posts and stop talking about him and whinging about him. You will still think about him but you need to make it clear to the world he doesn't take up your space anymore! Also stop answering his texts or responding to his attempts to contact you.
Once you get some distance and people stop talking to you about him you'll find mentally he stops taking up your energy so much.
Also go get yourself some counselling, if you haven't. It's really hard to disengage emotionally from DV relationships which is part of what you are experiencing and counselling can help with that.
He said it to have that impact....and if it has that impact its just more DV.......
Be there for your son. Its better this way