I'm having a pity party but am having trouble getting out of it.
I've had three beautiful kids who I love to bits. I know our bodies change after having kids. Sagging here, extra tyres there, stretch marks you could make a car mat out of. I have even lost weight (98kg down to 83 then up to 86kg) I am exercising and eating well.
My tummy is just gross. I know I'm not going to have a 6pack or a flat stomach but this undulating vertical hillside is just........crap!
It jiggles like it does the hokey pokey all on its own!! I've gone from a size 18/20 to a 14 and I want to drop a few more kgs (not unhealthy either with doctors support) but I find the mental game is hard!
Have any of you figured this out and beat the mental game???
I am going to drop to 75kg which is waaaay better than the 68 the bmi says, some days it's hard to stay away from the junk food and the chips and not hate my body.
Body dramas, mental battles and self pity
Body dramas, mental battles and self pity
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I think.until I learnt to love what my body could do, and stopped hating what it looked like it was a constant battle. My body looks as you describe. I don't care, I can leg press 260kgs, I can walk long distances, I can run, I can jump, I can plank for 2 minutes. That is how amazing my body is. I enjoy going to the gym.
I also made sure there were no off limit foods so I don't fall into the restrict binge cycle. I focus on re composing my body not weight loss. So I'm much less about a number on a scale and more about how my body is changing shape and size. I do weigh in once a month and despite dropping 3 dress sizes the number on the scale hardly moves because of the muscles I'm building. I love it, my doctor loves it and we track my weight measurement as that is more inductive, than BMI as BMI doesn't take into account how much muscle you have (elite athletes are often in the obese category). But even that stuff I don't really care about. Because my goal is to be able to use this body, make the most of it, chase the kids, play on the swings and have fun, because I'm lucky to have this body. It's mine, it works, I'm not sick, I'm not dying, it's not riddled with cancer, I am strong, I am lucky, and what it looks like is the least important part of who I am as a person
That is brilliant! Thank you. I am going to write this down and read it a few times.
I can plank for about a minute, I can do 15 push ups, I can do squats for 1.5 minutes before I have to stop. I can walk for ages, I can do lots of things without pain that I couldn't before.
Thank you for reminding me where I am now instead of where I was.
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If I hit my ideal BMI id be dead....I got down to 76 once from one of my pregnancies and I was sick as a dog BMI says 72 is ideal. ...I never want to be that small again I do want to lose 30kg though currently 116kg and 5'10" but its an ùphill battle with a bad back and a family who LOVE exploring the kitchen and cooking yummy things...and of course I can't not have some they would be upset with me.....at least for the most part it is good food.