I am completely getting the sharp end of the stick... The ex is totally ignoring child support and doesn't updating them of his income and refusing to actually make any payments or even answer the phone when they call.
I work ( low income ) and look after my boy 86%.
Who knows what the ex is doing... He tells me nothing and tells CS nothing.
My part support payments all reflect on his so called estimated income. (Taxable).
Which intern is effecting my income. I am trying to save for braces and I pay for everything!!! with no help from "dad". But I am receiving absolutely nothing... I am actually loosing income and have also had a rent increase reflected on his estimated income, all because he cant make a simple phone call... Or won't.
I understand these women who get so angry and frustrated with the ex and withhold their children... But I am not one of them... It is his choice to see his son 2 nights a fortnight and I refuse to play tit for tat.
I just can't understand the mindful neglect of support for his own son... And I don't know what to do.
CS says they can't do anything. ??
I cant afford a lawyer or even have the time.. There are no court orders and mediation hasn't worked..
I was thinking about writing a letter to his family and ask for their help financially. I'm not asking for a lot, just some help so I'm not struggling.. So I can simply take my boy for sushi and not chew into his braces fund. So if the washing machine brakes down I don't have to get into debt to get it fixed...
And please... I know some women are completely worse off than I and some people probably think that I am trying to take the ex for everything his got or even think that I spend all my money on booze, drugs or shoes.... But I'm not... I just want to support my son and be able to give him the things he needs. So please don't comment if you just simply want to be nasty...
I want some clue of what I can do... Some direction, suggestions or an approach... Please!!
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You can't actually do anything. You just have to let it go. Courts don't typically deal with child support in australia and they can't really do anything anyway. You just have to learn to let it go, and make it through. I raised my son on my own with an occasional child support payment. I just had to budget for not receiving it and when some came in then that was a bonus. My son is now 20 and we made it through and yeah sometimes I had to go into debt for things like braces but that is life. We got through it.
At the end of the day I realised I was upsetting myself over something I couldn't change and so I made the decision to accept it as it is and live life.
Speak to centerlink. they can make changes on your file that FTB is adjusted based on what you receive in the bank rather than the amounts he is assessed at....it risks an overpayment but it means you can survive and if there is an overpayment you have the funds available to deal with it because evidently you have finally received it...
I had to have mine changed to this arrangement when my ex went to prison last year without so much as a heads up on losing a third of our income. otherwise there simply would not have been food on the table