I have 2 children, 1 from a previous relationship..she is becoming a very misbehaved little girl..plays up all the time and when I say anything to her dad about it he laughs..I have her full time..I was with my sister a few weeks back and she asked my child why they play up and the response was because "mummy doesn't play with me anymore"..I was heart broken when I found this out..
How could I be so neglectful of 1 child and not even see this is affecting her..I try and spend as much time with her as possible but it doesn't seem to be enough..my other child is breast fed and doesn't take milk any other way,she is clingy and I can't leave her with her dad cos all she does is cry..
The question I have is..how do I find the balance?between spending enough time with both children so they don't feel neglected!! I then question myself will she get more attention if she was with her dad,oh I don't know..
Thank you
Feeling neglectful
Feeling neglectful
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Get her involved with the baby and breastfeeding talk to her as if it's you and her together looking after the baby, so that's your time. Read or tell stories or play games like can you hop and pat your head, balance on one leg, when you can't really do anything else, also it doesn't have to be lots of time bit good quality time absolutely full of praise and love. Try to nip a sooky situation early and I tell mine afterwards that I don't like to see her sad I.like to see her happy. And I ignore it and still tell her I had a wonderful day with her and she was so good and such a great sister. It's a really hard transition, takes energy effort when you feel like you just haven't got it for that one, good luck.