I have a 6 year old son and will be 33 in October. I always said I only wanted one child. Recently I have to admit I've been contemplating having a second but am unsure whether we should? My son is adamant he does not want a sibling and is quite upset when we talk about having another. I'm worried about the age gap and the fact by the time the baby is born the gap will be too large. I'm worried that if I don't have another one I will regret it and also terrified that having another will be a mistake at the same time as we are very happy with where our lives are at with lifestyle, careers etc. :( Can anyone share their experiences where they had a large age gap and when they weren't sure about the whole idea of another baby?
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Kids don't get a vote in wether they have siblings or not. They don't get to decide if it is a good idea or a bad idea because they can't even begin to comprehend the ramifications either way. This is an entirely adult decision. You have plenty of time to get him used to the idea if you and your partner decide to have another.
Firstly, your 6 year old should not get a voice in this. This needs to be a decision between you and hubby. As for the age gap, I wouldn't worry too much. It all depends on how you raise them. There is 11 years between my brother and I but only 2-5 years between my sisters and I. I am friends with all of them. I hang out with my brother (he is now 22) quite often as we have similar tastes in music and movies. He is a great concert/movie buddy! There is 9 years between my sister's oldest and youngest girls and they have a fabulous relationship. The oldest completely dotes on her baby sister.