How to de-stress.. i am 15 weeks pregnant and where my husband works are putting off more people within the next fortnight atm we have a 160k mortgage and a car loan i own my car but dont want to sell it i work causally 25+ hours a week but we rely on his income for the bills i am so scared that he will loose his job and that we will loose our house and that we will be left with nothing we have worked so hard to get where we are i am just so upset all the time and stressed to the max i'm not eating properly and i cant sleep we just want to be able to start our family i know there are probably alot of people out there worse off than us it just dosent seem that way i am just at the stage where i keep thinking that this baby is a mistake and that i dont want it anymore i really just dont know what to do i just need some advice please
Stressing over Husbands job
Stressing over Husbands job
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hi honey. First off....breathe, in & out.
This sounds like it's affecting you so much, and it can't be good for your unborn baby!! It's so important you don't stress too much!
No baby is ever a mistake! Ever!!
Is your husband able to look for another job now in the anticipation that he may be put off?
Can you talk to your family or close friends to de-stress a bit? You've made a good first step here to just let it out.
I truly hope things work out for you, your husband and your precious baby!
I'm sure this will all pass, just take one step at a time. I know it's not easy when you're right in the middle of it. I've been in your position, hubby was in and out of jobs and I didn't have one at all, we had nothing (except a mortgage - twice as much as what you've mentioned above). kids, 2 cars etc etc.
Hard times don't last forever!
Good luck!
Don't stress, tackle the issue if it happens I know it's hard cos your pregnant and hormonal. Your in a great position with your house and car.....maybe increase your hrs for a while save up the cash in case he does loses his job and it takes a while to find another? On the other hand we all stress about money, security. I don't think there's ever a 'right' time to have a baby I think we all just manage to make it work x
he is looking for another job now but there isnt much around at all he can take a redundancy but were not sure thats the right thing i really dont know i try to not let it get too me and get upset but its so hard i dont get along with hi family n mine say things will work out i just thought it was a good time for a family we just try so hard to make a go of everything i just feel devestated and sick
Money comes and goes, if taking the redundancy is the only option then maybe it's a good option to get you all by while he looks for another job? Maybe call your bank and see if you can reduce your mortgage payments to just interest free for a while?
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