Hi ladies!
I'm looking for some advice to help me get over hubby not wanting another child or some positive stories where hubby may have changed their mind or something.
Hubby and I have been going through some challenging times since the birth of our two year old daughter. He has since decided that he doesn't want anymore children. He is 29 and I'm 28 so I know he may change his mind in the future but I don't want to have this hope in my heart and disappointment when he mentions in passing how he's happy he won't have to take care of a newborn ever again. Financially we reasonably ok (joint income $250k) so financial reasoning doesn't really help :(
I just need some guidance on how to come to terms with the fact that my daughter may not ever have a sibling. Thanks ladies :)
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It takes time but I made myself ok with stopping at 1. When you find yourself thinking about another one, you remind yourself of all the reasons who stopping at one is good. Eg don't have to do sleepless nights again, never have to worry about having two kids vomiting simultaneously, you and hubby have more time and energy to work on your relationship, will have a lot more every and time to devote to your one. It was a work in progress for me, but now I couldn't imagine having a second.
To be perfectly honest I think it's incredibly selfish of your husband to make this decision on his own.. Why is it that you have to accept what he is saying? Why can't he accept you want more children? I'm sorry I don't have any constructive advice for you. I couldn't imagine how upset you must been feeling :-(