Hi, I've written in afew times over the years and once again I'm needing some advice or something :)
I'm a single mum of 3 under 7 my husbands in rehab and we've been Seperated for nearly a year.
The first 6 months I was doing great of course I had my moments when the kids were in bed or when I was alone that I would lose my bundle from not coping with everything that was happening (my ex was an alcoholic, emotional abuser and cheated on me). But I spent time with my kids, the house was always clean and I started studying and looking after myself.
Fast forward afew more months and I'm not coping at all. My house is a pig sty, bills are coming out of my butt, everything keeps breaking on me my car, washing machine. I'm always yelling at the kids or I'm sitting down crying. My 7 year old is always yelling, calling me an idiot, slamming doors, won't listen (he was never like this) and I don't know how to do this anymore i want to runaway. I feel anxious all the time. And I'm resentful of my ex as he's away getting help and getting better and I feel like shit and not coping and not dealing with everything he's done to me.
Feel like running away from motherhood
Feel like running away from motherhood
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Relationships & Marriage, Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression
2 Replies
First things first, off to your GP for a mental health check up. Have your kids had the opportunity to talk to counsellors about what has gone on in there lives. Remember the kids probably feel abandoned by there dad and the anger and behaviour problems can reflect that. Getting on top of your mental health will allow you to take back control. Don't be afraid to seek help from salvos, anglicare, who ever you can. It's ok to ask for the help you need.
Please lean on friends and family for help. Can your youngest go to childcare or family day care casually to give you a break. Call the people where the bills are coming from and arrange small payment plan, to take the stress off. Can you access yours or hubby superannuation to get you through, or borrow from centrelink to ease the burden on you. Please go off to your gp and seek councilling for you and the children. Do something for yourself go get your hair done or a massage, pop the children with family or friends and go out for the day, even if you sit in thr park and read the newspaper. Best of luck mum, you are doing a great job. Now put yourself first for once, looking after yourself is looking after your children.