I need some help to handle my emotions. I have 2 children, a 2 year old boy and a 10 month old girl. My daughter is the easiest child in history, always smiling, always laughing, and is still little so doesn't really have the capability to do anything "naughty" my son, his beautiful, he gives the best hugs and kisses, he has a slight delay so he can not talk, but his a beautiful boy. Between the both of them, my son constantly blowing kisses and my daughter constantly smiling, I get stopped a lot by strangers who make positive comments. But here lies my problem, my son, at home can be an absolute terror and it's just getting worse, im finding it hard to find something sweet or good his done in the day, his become nasty to everyone, he hits and head butts and pushes his sister over he will continuly do something he knows is naughty and when I tell him off he proceeds to find the nearest object and tip it over (dining table chairs for example) he will not listen! I can't give him time out because he will not sit still and if I force him, one of us gets hurt, his extremely strong, he breaks everything, he slams door and throws things into them, im in a rental, single mum and his done so much damage, im dreading for house inspection. Everyday is draining! It's constant telling off, disciplining and just a down right argument everyday, im exhausted! When he wakes up, I can not wait for nap time, when he wakes from that, I count the minutes down till bed time! I hate this, I hate feeling this way and I hate being annoyed with him, his just pushing every single button and I feel like I can't do it anymore! He won't walk with me so if we go out his in the pram and he will scream all the time lately! He wasn't like this 2 weeks ago! I'm on edge so bad! I don't know how much more I can take, I love him, I really do but I despise his behaivour at the moment! It's so hard because my daughter is so well behaved so I feel he gets annoyed that she is never told off but she doesn't do anything but laugh at the walls all day! I can't even get a break because everyone refuses to babysit him because his behaivour is so bad! He won't listen, he refuses to behave for 30 seconds, im trying the "ignore the bad behaviour and praise the good" but there is literally no good! What do I do? I don't smack anymore because he hits me back and isn't phased by it, so it obviously isn't working, time out won't work, can't even lock him in a room because he can open the door and if I hold it shut starts banging his head on it like crazy! I can't even vent to my mum because she gets up me for feeling frustrated! I'm just over it! Fed up! Can't do it anymore and I just wanna throw in the towel! He is out of control and I can't do a damn thing about it!
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A couple of ideas. Keep him out of the house as much as possible. I mean parks and playgrounds, car drives, wandering aimless around shops what ever you can. Playgroups, story time at the library, anything.
You mention he has a speech delay, has he been seen by a pediatrician regarding developmental delays? If not I would definitely be seeking that out. Speech delays and behaviour problems go hand in hand and often are part of an underlying disorder (not saying that is the case but you'd rather know one way or another, early intevention and funding can make a huge difference). Have you considered daycare? I would absolutely look into it for at least a day a week.
I know how exhausting it can be I was where you were when my son was 2 and those were the things that worked for me. If your family wont help with babysitting will they help with housework so you have your load lightened?