Need help from primary school teachers with children. ..

No personal experience with this but I can identify with not wanting to put your kids in the big rough school. My daughter has gone through kindy, prep and currently year 1 in an independent school nearby and I am so glad we've decided to make the financial commitment. She is making lifelong friends - these decision are important! The kids she is in school with come mostly from like-minded families - sensible, well-educated, care a lot about their kids' education, behaviour, health and future opportunities. When my kids were still very little I noticed that if we happened to be walking to the shops at school finishing time, many of the kids pouring out of our local catchment school (which is a mega primary and high school next to each other) were rude, using obscene language really loudly like they wanted everyone around to hear how cool they were being, dressed inappropriately (high school girls with heavy makeup, skirts that were waaaaay too short, etc), older kids smoking openly, and were just generally not the kind of people I felt that my kids and family would fit in with happily. Some lovely kids in our street go there, so I know it's not all bad, but being there at that time of day was a real eye opener. Not to mention some of the parents waiting in the car park - many were just as bad as the kids. I know it's judgmental. But when you're making decisions that can affect the whole life ahead of your children, I think you can forgive yourself for wanting to be choosy. I do realise that private school kids aren't all perfect angels, but the difference in the kids was immediately noticeable when I went and checked out our school for the first time.

There are quite a few kids in my daughter's year whose parents work at the school. As far as I'm aware, it really hasn't been an issue. There have also been families in your situation who have decided to send their kids elsewhere (even one lady who had several kids there and when she got a job there she pulled all her kids out and sent them elsewhere! I thought that was a bit extreme but I don't know them very well at all, so don't know the circumstances, no doubt they did was was right for their family). You have plenty of good reasons for wanting to send your kids to your school. You probably have already, but speak to your boss about it, and speak to other teachers at your work with school-age children who have faced the same decision.

Huge rambling comment with probably not much helpful info sorry! Hope you find your way soon xo