I want to move back to my hometown. My family are all there so I have a support network. I have friends. I have employment opportunities. Living here I feel isolated from all those things. It's only an hour away, but with young kids sometimes that hour might as well be ten hours.
The ex is the thing. He's angry that I want to move. He will only be able to take the kids every second weekend and he resents losing the extra time with them. He's making me feel like I'm being selfish. I have given this place a fair chance. I moved here six years ago to be with him. I really don't like living here. It feels like my choices are limited because of his decisions - he's tied to the area because of a bad property investment he made before we met.
I just don't know what to do. Staying here makes me unhappy, but moving makes him unhappy. When is it ok to be selfish and put my happiness first?
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EXACTLY...EXxxx .. PUT yourself first he will have to deal with it !!
What's best for the kids?
I don't know? They'd miss dad. They'd love seeing more of their grandparents. They'd have to change school and that's a shame because they go to a lovely school, but there's a better chance I could find a job so they'd be in a better funded household and have the option to do extra curricular activities that I just can't afford right now. Dad would be more miserable. Mum would be happier. Ultimately I think it's a wash. There's positives and negatives either way.
There is a post further up which is almost identicle!! Called: Moving home Stubborn Husband!