Hi IM's Ill start off by saying that I am a 22yo female and my partner and I have just found out we're pregnant the only other person who knows is my best friend who also has a little 8week old little girl.
My Question is how do I tell my mother?
For me its not as easy as just coming out and telling her that im pregnant..
I moved back home 2 years ago and we've had a pretty good relationship up until last year when i found out i was pregnant and wasnt sure what to do.. i told my mother and her response upset me, basically it was get it "taken care of or move out" I wasnt in a stable relationship and I was still living at home. The right thing to do for me then was to have it terminated... after that I haven't really been able to tell her anything personal that goes on anymore.. Until today when I found out I am pregnant to my now partner of almost a year, When i told him he was happy, scared but happy and we cant wait to have our own family.. my only two problems are at the moment im still living at home, before i found out i was pregnant we were planning on moving out beginning of next year anyway... but lately my mother and I have been fighting alot and it makes me depressed when im at home I just want to leave! Anyway..how do I tell her for the second time that im pregnant and we're keeping it, we will be moving out together soon but im just honestly too scared to tell my mum as it may ruin our already on the edge relationship.
Also we haven't told his parents yet either..but we both know they'll take it better then mine will.. i just need advice :( please dont judge.
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My mum pretty much told me the same thing!! I was 18 at the time and lived at home with mum and dad! My son is now 13 years old and ever since he was born my mum has been the most amazing nana anyone could ever ask for. He is her life and if I mention what she said when I first told her I was pregnant, she gets really upset and won't talk about it!!
Just tell your mum babe, it is her grandchild and she will love it more than life it's self!!!
Nows the time to show your mum you are a grown up. You and your partner should sit her down and communicate your plans. Eg we were planning to move in together but now we are pregnant we are moving that forward.
The reason you are fighting a lot is because you and your mum are both ready for the new phase in your lives. You want to be out, and she wants you out. That's not an awful thing, it's what is supposed to happen. My mum and I went through the same thing. Soon as I moved out we got on great.
So give your mum a plan, eg have deposit saved for rental by x date and start applying for places.
Thanks guys. Ive told her and shes over the moon both my parents are. Now just to tell his....
That is awesome news. Best of luck in the future
Can you both find a place together now? Move out and then tell her. If shes happy for you then great! If shes not then thats her problem not yours