Hey guys,
I've got a touchy one that people may have strong views about, but lets all keep our heads on shall we.
I live away from my family, I have two girls, both under three, partner works Monday to Friday.
Now for my pickle.
Recently I went to the Drs for a breast examination. My girls aren't in day care or anything and the Drs opening hours match my partners work hours. So they had to come with me. Fine by me.
But the dr was really funny about it, she wanted to close the curtain on my daughters!!? I said no leave it open it's fine. My daughter wanted to sit next me to, so up she hopped and said boobies, I said "yes sore boobies" and she proceeded to pull her top up and feel hers too.
The dr said no more but seemed uncomfortable about the whole thing. In the beginning I didn't think anything of it, but the more I think about it, the more i think it's a great thing for my girls to attend. I never want them to be uncomfortable at the Drs and feel there privates are something to be embarrassed of with a dr. I really do believe it's awesome that I'm normalising woman's checks at the Drs for them. I mean as they get older they can sit behind the curtain if they want to, but if they want to watch, great! It's normal and I feel I should normalise it for them. Papsmears I'll have to strap them into the pram and keep them up my end of course.
But I really just want some opinions! Am I strange for not being fussed that they attend? Or is the dr (female btw) the odd one ?
5 Replies
I don't think it's strange at all, I think not watching the Pap smear is probably good, let's not scare the shit out if them lol but yeah I don't see the issue about the breast examination. Some people are up tight though, it's not like the doctor was cutting you open
No I don't think that's strange at all. I think it's a fantastic idea & have never really thought about it myself, but now you've mentioned it I think it's great. I have a 7yo daughter (and 2 sons aged 10 & 12) & they've always come to Drs app with me as I've had no other choice before they were at school. I've never had a breast examination before but will speak openly about it with my daughter & answer any questions she has no matter what age. Well done ?
My male doctor seemed uncomfortable when I suggested he leave the curtain open (as my partner was in the room) whilst I was having a stretch and sweep. My partner has obviously seen my vagina, if I say I am fine with it then it should be fine with the doctor too. I fully agree breast exams and the like are something that our daughters should see. Good on you
I too think that its something that we should be exposing our kids too, in this kind or way for this particular reason.
Normalising health examinations and promoting openness and discussion is a great thing. I think it's very old school to keep this stuff from our children. Good for you in challenging the Dr. !