I have 4 beautiful children. Youngest is not quiet 1 but we have found out we're expecting number 5. Apparently the withdrawal method isnt as reliable as we thought. Hubby is not happy and wants us to terminate but I dont believe in that. As is we will need to sell our house to fit another baby. I dont no what to do. Hubby isnt happy and I cant terminate.
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for one, "withdrawal" isn't a method, it doesn't work AT ALL.
Second, if this child is going to cause problems, financially, between you and husband, then terminating may be best!
Do you want the child to be born and be resented because its the reason everything changed?
How does this comment help at all.. The poster said she does not want to terminate some people cannot live with that decision so how dare you say terminating is what is best and try to guilt her into doing it by saying the child may be resented. Change is inevitable, shit happens. No one would blame a child for that you just learn to make it work.
Totally agree! Withdrawal is not a method of contraception, these two people took part in sexual activity using an extremely unreliable 'method' of contraception and now there is a baby. If hubby felt so strongly about not having another child, then perhaps he should have sought out a more permanent form of contraception for himself. Do not let him or anyone else guilt trip you into doing something you don't want to do! We all face our challenges in life and this is one of yours. It's not the end of the world, things will change yes, but I'm sure they did when you went from two, to three and then from three to four as well. Everything will be fine...
Firstly I think the IM has worked out that the withdrawal method is not a good idea, post this baby hopefully she gets better information on contraception. Secondly who resents a child for being born???? Seriously
Sell things in your house.. fundraise.. there is no price on a life... be, think and act positive.. babys do cost.. but with simple budgeting.. it can all work. Your life will change and for the better. Never resent your child. Your hubby can adapt and pull his head in or ? ........... start saving now!
sorry, you are in this situation and yeah the withdrawal method is the most unreliable method of contraception you can think of. I can't tell you what to do, but what ever way you go you both have to be ok with the decision.
Do you really need to sell the house to afford another baby, or is your husband over exaggerating and just saying that to scare you into terminating?
Either way it's a very difficult situation to be in. If you do decide to keep baby, get ideas on decreasing baby costs now. If another baby capsule or car is a problem, then look at bus or train public transportation for a couple of years. Save nappy costs by using cloth nappies. Join or create freebie and secondhand sell baby goods Facebook groups. Breastfeed if possible to save on formula costs. Start growing fruit and vegies, there are many plants that grow quickly with little cost. Look into other ways to save money.
If your husband is 100% sure he wants no more children, tell him to pull his head out and get the snip. Research it, there is alot less cost, pain, risk and recovery time for a man to get the snip in comparison to other methods.
Good luck whatever you decision you make.