Hi IM's,
Straight to the point: My long term partner is a big spender and I am a tight ass!
We are both young, very hard workers with two young kids, who are have worked extremely hard to get to where we are today. My partner believes because he works hard he can spend whatever he wants, whereas I am all about budgeting, bills first etc.
The major problem is the money he spends on food, takeaway etc he can spend anywhere from $10-$30 a day on takeaway food and this has been happening for years much to my frustration and anger. I barely spend anything on myself and yet he throws our money away on useless crap.
I have tried everything! Showing him how much he spends on his bank statement, making his lunch, getting him to pick out stuff he wants for lunch (sounds childish hey!). I have stopped short of cutting his card up, because he will need it for work. I have told him he can have a day a week where he can buy whatever for lunch and he agreed. This lasts for a month tops and back to the same crap again - I have had enough, Im so annoyed. We could have used the money for a holiday or something nice. What do I do?
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You forget about it. I would say fair enough if you can't afford necessities, but it sounds like you can. Yeah for some people $10-30 a day is a lot of money, but to others that's quite normal. I just don't think it's worth fighting over.
I totally could have written this!!! This is exactly our position, except he probably spends like $250 a fortnight easy on takeaway and coke. It honest to god annoys the shit out of me, when i struggle to pay everything we need to pay for the fortnight. I just don't think men get it sometimes (not all men!!!)
I really dont think there is anything else you can do. :( i havent found a way yet :(