I am nineteen. I would ask my friends, but they'll only give me "just send her a Facebook message".
I had a best friend in highschool that I made when we were fourteen, as we were both in the school band. Our friendship was AMAZING. I've never had such a great friend where I could have fun and be my 100% true self. By the time we hit year twelve, things began to change. In year eleven she got her first real boyfriend, and as expected, the world revolved around him which really affected our friendship. For some reason, unknown to me, the boyfriend did not like me and did all he could to convince her that I was a horrible person. For months behind my back someone began a "she's trying to steal your boyfriend" rumor (despite the fact I had a boyfriend who I am still with now) and when I approached her she cried and said "you are just perfect... I got self-conscious". Oh, and one time I accidentally sat between them in religion class and that caused the up-roar from hell. By the time we left school, there wasn't much of a friendship left. By the end of the school year a lot of people in the large friendship group 'hated' me and some to this day still do not talk to me.
Through highschool she was an incredible friend who was there for me during very hard times.
Fast forward to now, almost two years later. We are both studying, working full-time, both have matured a fair lot. Also, that boyfriend of hers is out of the picture. Since leaving highschool my depression and anxiety has reached high and frightening levels and I am seeking help, but when I think about that sizzled-out friendship I get so upset. I with another good friend have tried to organize get-togethers with her but we are all very busy and it never works.
So... what am I asking? I need some creative, personal and meaningful ways to reach out to this old friend to let her know that I think of her, that I miss the friendship and would love to see her. I'm do not feel any message over Facebook could do that. She lives in my town. We have years worth of videos and photos I cherish, but I just want her back.
Thank you in advance. Xx
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Honestly, anything that you did that was more than a phone call, Facebook message, text would come across really weird and over the top. I know it would creep me out.
Keep it simple, get a conversation on Facebook happening.if it doesn't develop don't be disappointed. Some people are supposed to be permanent in our lives, some come and go.