Im 24, i have 2 beautiful kids (2 and 4) and an amazing loving husband, but lately I just feel unhappy and unconnected to my life.
I feel like I'm just on autopilot. Just going through the motions, not really connected to my life.
My husband has a great career and is about to start a new job in a higher position, and I'm still studying while working crappy jobs. Unable to go for any jobs I really feel I would enjoy more because his career will always come before mine.
I just feel like im stuck on repeat, and stuck in a rutt and i dont know how to get out and how to be happy again.
Feeling depressed and unconnected.
Feeling depressed and unconnected.
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Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression
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It won't always be like this. Your children will eventually become more independent.
Definitely won't be like this forever. Write yourself a longterm plan. For example in 2017 finish study, 2018 kids in school or full time daycare etc.
You can both have the career you want. Yeah you will need to build a network around you that can support that. Wether that's flexible family daycare provider or what ever it is you need.
Plan one thing out of the norm for you, they say a change is as good as a holiday. So treat yourself Massage, nails, haircut, catch up with the girls, weekend away Something to look forward to outside of the routine of day to day life. It will make you feel better for the short term. Set yourself mini goals to reach so you always have something you are working towards & can feel proud of. Also remember that once the kids are a bit older it could open up a lot more career options & you will become more flexible with time. Have you thought about applying for Part time jobs in the field you are interested in. (if its possible) it might be a better option, while your kids are young. If it goes deeper & you are feeling depressed it might be worth seeing your GP to get a referral to counselling or to have a chat about medication options.
Do you exercise? Maybe a nice walk every day to get the endorphins going and get out in the fresh air might help. Positive thoughts bring positive feelings.
When I was a single mum and got put on antidepressants, I was on them for two weeks and woke up one day and thought I didn't want to feel like that anymore .... I stopped taking the antidepressants and every single time I had a negative thought I stopped myself and changed it to something that was good in my life, sounds cliché but it seriously works, the mind is a powerful thing, it will make you feel like you allow it to make you feel.... Look at things differently and not the negatives, you might start to see a change in how you feel.
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