Hi lovely ladies, I've written in recently about feeling lost....partially it is the very unhealthy marriage I'm in (I'm trying my best to sort this out) and partially it's because I let it get that way to begin with. I think perhaps my own self worth (or lack of it) may be partially to blame for the situation. I'm making a list of things I can do to help show respect for myself and would love some suggestions. Please be mindful that 1. I'm just about flat broke.
2. I'm not supported by my husband So I will most likely be accompanied by my 3 young sons.
My list so far is:
- get a haircut (it's been over 6.5 years)
- get some make up (again almost 5 years)
- find some clothes that actually fit (currently use donations from someone that is far smaller than me)
- lose the weight that I put on due to being unhappy (so far have lost 2kg....18kg to go)
Sure it's going to take months to work through this list due to logistics but I feel better knowing I can do something. Perhaps if I respect me, others may be more inclined to respect me also.
So, I would love some suggestions - big and small of what I can do for myself.
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Go to the library and borrow a book on Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and Assertiveness Training.
You are right though, if you don't respect you, it's hard for someone else too.
Good luck
You need to respect yourself and love yourself for how you are now in the present moment or else no matter how much money you spend on yourself you will never be happy within. Smile, go for a walk outside, watch a funny movie, have a glass of wine, have a friend over, do some exercise. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you love YOU. Ofcourse there are things you can do to better yourself and the list you have sounds like a great start. God luck
Well done to you for taking this step. In regards to new clothes check out the op shops, you will be surprised at what you find for bargain prices, and then as you lose weight it's not such a costly exercise to keep up dating your wardrobe! Best wishes to you, stand strong!