Hello lovely ladies. I am at my wits end and just looking for reassurance. I have 3 children, 5 yrs, 3yrs and 17 months. My older two fight non-stop! We have tried everything and a variety of different approaches. They love each other and spend so much time together but lately have been at each other's throats. At times my husband and I have had to physically separate them. I am wondering if we are doing something wrong or if this is normal. It is really getting my husband and I down. We feel like all we ever do is get cranky and break up their fights!
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It's pretty normal.
My two girls are 6 and 3, and fight a lot. It drives me nuts, and gets me down sometimes too. It's so tiresome to constantly have to deal with their squabbles. I feel like I mediate all day long. They don't get physical (yet?!!) but they fight over possessions, TV shows, which chair they sit in, who gets in the car first, who gets to sit closest to me, which colour plate or cup they get, which toys they play with, who goes first, who gets the biggest serving, which book we read, you get the picture! They have nice times too, but the fighting and competitiveness is ridiculous. No words of advice I'm sorry, but I do find that if we're out and about and they're distracted/entertained, they tend not to fight. I think it's normal, and you're probably not doing anything wrong at all.