I'm in two minds about what to do. My 3 year old sees his dad every second weekend, however for 8 months he hasnt paid a cent of child support. Child support have been trying to locate his work to have it taken off his pay but they're having no luck. He pretty much told me i have to wait for him to do his tax return before I see any of it. He only has to pay $100 a month as it is (he has another child too who he isn't paying for). Every second weekend I end up doing drop off and pick up as well as sending clothes that I pretty much never see again. He always comes home exhausted, hungry and thirsty. I've seen the kind of parent he is back when we were together and he's not attentive. I have no doubt that he loves him but why should he get to enjoy time with him when he can't hold up his end of the bargain? I also like to send him because then he gets to have time with his sibling but I feel like his dad just getting the best of both worlds and its not very beneficial for him to be there anyway. Part of me wants to tell him he's not having him again until he pays up to date with child support and does pick ups when he does have him (has to be pick ups because whenever i drop him off he just turns around on the Sunday and says he has no fuel to drop him back and I have no choice ). But the other part of me doesn't want to be that parent who denies their child a right to see their father. I've previously stopped him having him for a few months after he kept coming home filthy and hungry and thirsty and told him the rectify the problem or take me to court. He will never bother to take me to court because he just doesnt care enough.
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If he doesn't care stop doing the running around and see what happens. If he doesn't care about your child surely it's not a happy environment for him.
Child support payments should never be attached to visitation. Although it feels unfair wether he is paying or not should not be a taken into account.
I think yeah he is probably shitty with money etc, but does your son have fun there?
I'd maybe consider making the visits shorter? But not stopping them.
He is a deadbeat dad. Not being able to pay $100 a month for your child is ridiculous. what is more important. The thing that got me upset was not that he was not paying child support but that your son comes home hungry and tired. That is not right. I would stop sending him. stop running after him. If he really wanted to see his son he can come and see him at your place for a day every weekend. not overnight. it sounds like he is not being looked after.
For all those people commenting on Facebook about fathers rights. Get over it. His father is not looking after his son properly, he is hungry for goodness sakes. If he wants any rights pay your child support and make sure your son doesn't go hungry for goodness sake.
I don't know about your child but mine will come in the door from just about anywhere and first words out of her mouth will be "I'm hungry". I don't give a rats ass about father's rights but this kid has a right to have a relationship with his dad. So focus on making those visits safe for him but don't stop them because the dad doesn't pay child support. It sucks, it really does. Took me a long time to stop being angry about the lack of financial support AND I do half the running around for visitation. But guess what? I don't do it for him. Its all for her.
Shes awinging woman as you said its only a hundred dollars yet she wants to refuse the childs rights to see its father its a blatent case of control on her part nothing to do with child suport and my children are always hungry and tired after theyv had a fun weekend wat do you know about him nothing only wat another woman who is in control mode wants to tell you get over yourself and leave the man alone
How do you know hes not looking after his child just because a controling woman says so when my child is hungry and tired and thirsty I know hes had a good time she should be happy he or she will be in bed early and is it so bad she is going to miss 25 dollars aweek I dont think so you want to make it an isue of pay or have no rights including the childs rights . And you said your child its not her child its there child