I am looking for positive outcomes on having a another baby after a stillborn. I lost my little girl 7 months ago I went into early labour at 28 weeks only to find she had passed away :( I have 2 other children, we had tests done and I have a blood clotting condition ( can't remember the name) our baby girl had passes due to blood clots blocking the cord and serveral busting in the placenta,,both my other children were born early (about 6 weeks) due to pre eclempsia . I want to try again.. In total I have fallen pregnant 7 times 2 healthy baby's and 1 stillborn 4misscarages I'm only 26 I am so worried about having another still born but having another baby consumes my every thought I don't know how to weigh up my options, do I risk it all for a chance to hold a breathing baby in my arms or will I have all the pain of holding my lifeless baby :( and to add I had blood clots in my lungs 4 days after having our baby girl. All my family think I'm done they don't want to see me go through that pain again and I don't want to put them through that pain, (i do not wish to have another baby anytime soon but I want the option to be their I don't want anyone to think I am replacing my daughter ) has anyone gone through this ? Did u get your rainbow? We're u on medication? Specialist care? Extra ultrasounds? Was it worth it?
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I'm sure you are going to, but this is the kind of decision I'd make with my doctors. Only they really know all of your risks, complications etc. and only they are in a position to advise you.
What I want to offer you is that it's going to be ok, whatever happens. I had the choice taken away after my one and only. It took me time, but I got there. So whatever happens just know it can be good.
Hi, yes I have a " rainbow " baby. Pregnancy with a child is hard after a loss emotionally, but with support and knowing you will find it a rollercoaster, helps. Feel free to ask questions to me.