Is it far to just throw your hands up and give up.
7 years I've been with my partner he walks in and out. Doesn't like any home truths. Won't work if he does he never holds a job. Constantly uses his mental health as an excuse as far as I'm concerned there is no such thing as can't. If the blind can work, those without arms and legs then I see no real reason for him. His quite happy to wings if things don't work or the luxuries aren't there but I'm the one that works and pays everything he doesn't share the load with the children some dishes mostly sits on his phone all day I'll come home on the weekend footys on sterios on lights are all on. I've spoken to him about his lack of motivation goals in life and I get if you don't like it find someone else. I feel for my children but I'm so fed up with this bludger. Arrogant lazy pig. Seven years amount to nothing no goals set together achieved my personal goals I've achieved but he has gotten no where including a loss of license and no car because he damaged that too.
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If he has a mental illness then his job is getting well, going to treatment etc, I guess he isn't working on getting well (and before anyone jumps down my throat, I have mental illness myself) by your description.
Move on, this isn't the guy for you. You need a partner not another child. The kids will still see him and 7 years is long enough to know he isn't going to change and you aren't going to get happy.
Even if he does have mental health issues he should be going to drs to try and get himself better and if his not working he should be doing everything he can to make your life easier watching kids, house chores ect. Personally if I had to deal with this for 7 long years and he says if you don't like it then leave. I would be packing up his stuff and putting it on the front lawn. I wouldn't leave the house you paid for that house with your work. I would tell him to pack up and get out.
A few months ago I could have written this myself!! Never held a job, lost his licence due to DUI so I had to drive him everywhere, no help with the house or kids whilst I worked and did everything around the house. He would sleep in till lunchtime while I got up early, got the kids ready for school, went to work, came home, picked up the kids, drove him to his mates, did housework and homework, picked him up from his mates, made dinner, put the kids to bed etc. He has a mental illness. We would see progress whilst he was on his meds then he would drink and not take them that day since they made him tired, not take them the next 2 days because he was hung over. Then when he'd start taking them again they took a few days to kick in. All I can say is leaving him was the best thing I ever did! Life is much better!