I have a almost 2 year old daughter and she is sending me crazy!
She cries, screams, smacks my face all the time. I try to do the right thing, I keep my cool but I'm at breaking point. I read that toddlers should really have 6-8 Tantrums a week. I get like double that in a day.
It feels like whatever I do I just can't get anywhere. I see no improvement.
When do they stop..??
When she is just relaxed she is the sweetest little thing but I work full time. I don't know if day care is just too much for her.
I try to feed her all the right foods
I try to give her as much attention as I can.
Should I see a doctor is that amount normal for a child her age?
I can't even take her to the shops she goes nuts and if I put her down she runs off pulling everything off shelves. She doesn't listen to me.
I just need some techniques.. I feel hopeless!!
Toddler Tantrum
Toddler Tantrum
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I don't think it hurts to see a doctor as that sounds a little more extreme than just the terrible twos. I'd also speak to her daycare about what her behaviour and development is like at daycare.
Child psychologists are awesome at parent training so don't be afraid to ask for a referral. They can observe you with your child and give advice for specific situations.
If you think something isn't right than you should see a doctor. I would also suggest researching positive parenting.
Watch some supernanny episodes, I love her techniques and use them often with my 5.5, 3.5 & almost 2yrs. I barely have to use the naughty corner now with my oldest two (actually I can't even remember the last time that I did).
Also any technique used will take awhile to take affect, it wont happen overnight you need to stick to something for at least 1week.
6-8 tantrums a week doesn't sound like near enough to me, my almost 2 yr old will have a few melt downs daily. I've implemented what I call 'crying girls in their room' so whenever she is throwing a tantrum for not getting something I tell her this and point to the room. When she was about 14/15mths I would take her by the hand and repeat and it only took 2/3 back and forth for her to understand. She now will willingly take herself to the bedroom to have her crying fit then come out happy. Keeping cool is key, but soo soo hard to do.
When do they stop you ask?? Well I'd say never, my 5.5yr old still has meltdowns.
Shopping: I always tell my kids on the way to the shops what kind of behaviour I expect of them at the shops, yes even at 2 they understand. I've always kept my under 4's in trollys, they know they aren't allowed to hop out for any reason. At the shops they sit in the trolly, end of story.
I hope you find some techniques that help you and your daughter. My best piece of advice, say yes as much as you like but when you say no mean it. No ifs buts or maybes. Never go back from a no to a yes you can do/have it now as it confuses the child, they learn if they keep up bad behaviour the no will eventually turn into a yes.